Today we are so excited to welcome couples therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, to the show!
You might be wondering… why is a couples therapist on a podcast about freelancing? But as we say on this show often, freelancing can empower you to become the best version of yourself. At the core of Heart-Centered Service is connecting with your inner voice so you can positively impact others you work with.
And as Elizabeth said herself during the interview: “The more we learn how to have better relationships with others, the easier life becomes.”
So grab a cup of coffee and tune into today’s episode where we talk with Elizabeth about setting boundaries as a freelancer.
Listen to Episode 024, Setting Boundaries as a Freelancer with Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT
- Boundaries aren’t hard rules.
- It’s important to explore what you need before you set a boundary. At work, we don’t often tap into what we need. We think about what our clients need. We have to do this, because that’s how we serve our clients, but that can’t be the only focus.
- Blurred boundaries are when sometimes something is okay sometimes and other times, it’s not. It’s important to get clear on what the boundary really is there.
- “What is it I violated with myself with that 10pm phone call?” sit back and tune into what you can agree to
- As freelancers, we often set up client relationships without boundaries because we really want to please the client. We set the precedent early on, and then we feel like jerks changing it.
- Consider the other professionals in your life and if you can think of a time that they have set or changed policies. Remember that you are a professional too, and you get to change policies too.
- When you have to change the boundaries between you and your client, approach them from a transparent human perspective.
- Boundaries protect our energy and focus. They allow us to be more productive in the workplace.
- Boundaries also create sustainability.
- Really good boundaries make it easier to maintain your policies.
- Written policies and self policies- you have a contract with your client and you have a contract with yourself.
- Transparent vs assertive
- Start small by setting boundaries in low-risk situations.
- Look at how other people set boundaries and observe how you react to it. People who are uncomfortable setting boundaries are uncomfortable when they see them.
- Boundaries aren’t always about saying no. They work so much better when you state a positive need instead of just saying what you don’t want.
About Elizabeth Earnshaw
Elizabeth is a couples therapist from Philadelphia, PA. She is passionate about helping people develop healthier relationships with themselves and others. She’s also a wife and mama to a toddler and a doggy.